This weeks blog takes on a slightly different theme from my previous ones. Since I created this site I have had the link to Ancient Egyptian Sex Techniques on my page for anyone interested in exploring them. Today I’m throwing the whole thing in your face in an attempt at bringing to life ‘the unstruck chord’ 😘, so read, think and explore – responsibly!
The focus here, as always, is spirituality, for ultimately we are spirits having a human experience. As many of us awaken to our spirituality – and of course there are numerous paths that can lead to this awakening – we look to connect more with our higher being and hopefully find ourselves becoming more disconnected from the materialistic world we live in whilst learning to let go of stresses and focus on what really matters. Our sexuality when combined with spirit can quite literally be the greatest high of our lives.
First some quick definitions:
- Tantric is a Sanskrit word which means to loom or weave and is Hindu and Buddhist in origin involving mantra, meditation and ritual.
- Maithuna is Sanskrit and means the bringing of two things into one in union in a ritual act.
- Kriya means a completed action, like a spontaneous body movement that leads to a completed flow, a mature cleansing.
Maithuna can take place, as a union, purely on a spiritual or metaphysical level (non-penetrative), where you connect using your subtle bodies or spirit, and a transfer of energy occurs. You reach the ‘unstruck chord’ of your lover and your combined spirits dance to the rhythm of the music as your souls create true harmony. Most teachings refer to this experience as the couple incarnated, (with diminished egos), as the Goddess & God, (the female is Shakti and the male Shiva), and such a joining can bring about blissful sensations, waking your whole body in a truly life affirming way. In my personal experience through all my incarnations, there is only one person you can achieve this with in each lifetime and that person is most likely your soulmate. It is possible to achieve a deep spiritual connection with another, but before you experience the bliss there must first be a real and deep connection. Read on and you will understand why…
In order for Maithuna to take place in a physical way there needs to be a joining of spirit and flesh. Joining of the flesh without a connection of spirit is simply carnal. Don’t get me wrong, I do not write this from any seat of judgement. Ordinary sex may be just what you’re looking for, and in most western societies this is in fact the norm, however when the spirit and flesh combine, that is when you can truly explore the deeper tri-level pleasures of Maithuna.
Before I continue, let me just dispel some of the myths surrounding paganism and sexuality. Consenting adults acting responsibly may do as they will. I just want to be clear that being polyamorous is NOT a Pagan thing, it is a PEOPLE thing, a choice some may make. There are people from all walks of life who choose to have multiple or successive partners and that is their personal choice, however the methods I refer to here require a deeper spiritual connection with one partner where you bond emotionally, mentally and spiritually, reinforcing this link every day through aspects of your life together.
Many pagans are married or in committed relationships and the Handfasting ritual is indeed quite lovely and can last many years or many lifetimes. ‘All acts of love & pleasure are my rituals’ can be true for some pagans, where we invoke and connect spiritually with the Divine. However most sexual rituals (The Great Rite etc), are performed privately between a male and female or symbolically using an Atheme and a chalice. Don’t believe all the hype and misinformation out there about Pagans and orgies etc 🙄. (If you are new to paganism you should never feel obligated or coerced to take part in any ritual that you are not totally comfortable with).
I am a heterosexual woman, so I write from my own experience and knowledge. My youngest brother is homosexual and I adore him. The Native Americans refer, rather beautifully, to homosexual/bisexuals as ‘two spirits’. In their wisdom they accepted each human as they are. Those who were born ‘two spirits’ had the spirit of both the male and female within them, often giving rise to creatively gifted or wise humans who could understand both the male and the female perspective.
As you are probably aware I have a very mixed background, (I’ll leave out past incarnations for now), with influences of catholicism, paganism, witchcraft, voodoo and hinduism all tumbled together in tiny 5ft 1″ me. I view this purely as a gift to have first-hand knowledge and experience of so many paths. It also is the reason I write so passionately about individuality and walking your own path. It was inevitable that I would end up on this spiritual and magical journey, viewing all experiences as a gift or a learning experience. Our sexuality is one aspect of this.
The Ancient Egyptian methods of harnessing the energy of orgasm and channelling this energy back into your body is a great way to re-energise.
The symbol of the Ankh, depicted here, is the key to redirecting this energy. To explain it in the simplest terms, during orgasm the energy that builds is released along the spine and through the top of your head towards the 7th chakra. As the energy builds, but just before it peaks, you need to focus and visualise the Ankh, (essentially the loop at the top), drawing the energy back in through your 4th chakra, the heart. This will slow the orgasm and prolong the whole experience. Initially it might be best to practise this on your own until you master the method of channelling your energy. You will know when you’ve managed the technique successfully as rather than feeling post coital sleepiness, you instead feel energised and raring to go!
With Maithuna, orgasm is only a pause in the whole meditation and not the aim. The focus of Maithuna is to join mind body and spirit until you see only the god or goddess before you wearing the features of your lover.
Maithuna is very much more of a meditative and spiritual experience that transcends time and physical being. Hence the reason why it can never be achieved in a casual sexual encounter. There should be no time limit. To explore this method you will need to set aside most of the day or a weekend entirely devoted to each other – on a regular basis!
It is a sacred act capable of elevating a couple to a higher level of spirituality. Trust is very important, so too is honesty and equality. By equality I mean most women are slower to become aroused and therefore need to lead the dance or slow the dance where necessary. Missionary or other positions that place the male in the driving seat aren’t as effective, especially if you are new to these methods.
The most perfect position for Maithuna resembles the star of David. The male crossed legged and the woman on his legs with her legs wrapped around his waist. This gives equality and openness to connect physically, mentally and most importantly spiritually with each other, without dominance or ego.
The entire ritual is a meditation and initially can take place several times and over several days with no genital penetration, only a spiritual joining that eventually leads quite naturally to joining of the flesh. Remember orgasm is never the primary goal here, just a pleasant interlude, which can be channelled and refocussed. This method leads to an almost telepathic link between the lovers, through openness and honesty, therefore you need to have these things present in your relationship before you begin this ritual. Obviously, by partaking in the Maithuna ritual, it is unavoidable that you will deepen and strengthen the bond between you on all levels.
The meditation begins with a slow build up, bathing and massage is a common way to begin. Use candles, incense, rose petals, essential oils (sandalwood or jasmine are particularly lovely). Create a sacred space for you to be entirely together and focussed only on your lover. Maintain eye contact as much as possible, for they really are the windows to the soul. Touch is natural but unhurried. This is the key to the meditation, it cannot be rushed, let your mind settle, your spirits emerge.
Be together in the vibration (energy) not friction (physical). Bask in the sight, sound, scent and feel of your lover. Talk softly together. You will naturally flow to the next stage when you are ready, forming the star of David. Even after physically joining, do not rush, just hold each other, knowing you are safe and together, be slow and still. You might part and eat or drink them come together once more. Focus on breathing and flow, like the waves as you peak and subside, seeing only the divine in each other. It becomes a meditation in reading each other and controlling yourself to please the other but in giving even more is received. Eventually giving and receiving becomes second nature, you lose awareness of whether the touch is being given or received as two truly become one in mind, body and spirit. The whole universe is contained within two that have become one.
This is how Maithuna is reached.
Thank you for reading my ramblings.
May you have many hours, days and weeks of pleasure throughout all your lifetimes together with your lover.
Peace & light to you 🙏🏽🌟ૐ )0(