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The heart Chakra – Anahata – Unbroken

To begin, allow me to very briefly explain the many layers of our bodies.  Our physicality  is but one aspect of what forms a complete sentient being:

  • Etheric Body – is closest to the physical body and damage to this can result in images-5physical illness.
  • Emotional Body – is connected to our thoughts, feelings and emotions. Too much negativity, from yourself, or others around you, will cause damage here.
  • Mental Body – this is our logical self, where we debate, rationalise and discuss.
  • Astral Body – this is a shimmering beautiful layer made up of a bio magnetic energy field. In order to keep it grounded it needs to be connected to the physical body, however it is possible to ‘astral project’ or travel when you’re in a relaxed, calm state, or can be guided during hypnosis or with the use of certain drugs or during REM sleep.
  • Etheric Temple – this is the connection to our spirit or higher selves. It is the home of intuition, emotions and feelings linked to intuition.
  • Causal Body – our spiritual essence and higher self resides here. It holds the key to our true identity and accumulated knowledge through every lifetime.

Energy flows through our bodies via Nadis (Sanskrit word meaning riverbed). There are approximately 72,000 within us. Where these energy lines cross or converge we have the formation of a Chakra. Incidentally, there are many more chakra points in our body, but for now I want to focus on the seven main ones located along our spine. The study of energy, this planet – our great Mother Earth – and the human body is truly fascinating! We really are like microcosms of the planet we live on, (see my previous article on Stonehenge and the convergence of ley lines).

UnknownThe heart is the fourth chakra and the first major chakra I intend to write about. The reason for this is that it is central to balancing ourselves; mind, body and soul. It is also quite literally in the centre of our chakras, with three below and three above. It is the link between the physical (the world of matter) and spiritual (world of spirit), the higher and the lower. The colours of our chakra points range from warm colours lower down; red, orange yellow, to cooler colours higher up; green, blue, indigo & white. The colour of the heart chakra is green and when balanced should spin and sparkle like an emerald jewel.images-2

Anahata is the Sanskrit name for the fourth chakra and means unhurt, unbroken or the ‘unstruck chord’. It is the place of opening and the gateway between that which is physical and that which is spirit. Love, dedication, unification & self realisation are the key aspects of this chakra.

Ideally, in our lives we would all have had healthy childhoods where we build a well-rounded understanding of relationships and learn to love ourselves. However if this process has not been allowed to naturally occur, then the ability to give & take in a cyclical way and be open in relationships becomes stunted. In some cases we might find ourselves unable to accept or give love to ourselves or others in a wholesome way.

Image from – thewellnessuniverse.com

The heart chakra is so central to our wellbeing. We have all heard of cases where people literally die of a broken heart, for instance, after losing a loved life-long partner.  However there are also many more emotional & physical manifestations resulting from an imbalance in our heart energy:

  • Feeling unworthy; an underlying, yet overriding self-doubt that infiltrates all aspects of our life, causing us to feel that we don’t deserve love or to have our dreams fulfilled.
  • Low self esteem;  easily manipulated or easily influenced by others.
  • Manipulating others; any form of this is essentially attempting to hijack another’s    energy to boost your own, (putting others down to build yourself up).
  • Fear of being seen; in an emotional/spiritual or any real way. Think of the movie Avatar, when Neytiri says to Jake “I see you.” It is a truly beautiful statement as she sees his soul and loves him. It is the ultimate gift to ‘see’ the person you love. If the heart chakra is blocked then we do not see and do not wish to be seen.
  • Inability to release negative emotions; holding onto sadness, depression,  or reliving difficult experiences, being unable to move away or distance yourself from these feelings.
  • Physical manifestations; Asthma, lung disease, heart disease, anxiety and panic disorders, respiratory problems, and so on are potentially some of the physical manifestations of a blocked heart chakra.

images-12Our chakras should flow with energy both ascending and descending in our bodies. With the heart chakra, as it is the link between physical and spiritual, a blocked heart chakra can prevent the flow of energy and negatively impact all aspects of our mind body & spirit.

When the heart chakra is balanced and flowing you will:

  • be filled with gratitude2a2c3b980e482cac3c8707eca3d6a29f
  • be willing to help others
  • be willing to meet others
  • experience balance & harmony
  • have inner peace
  • love yourself
  • be able to release heart-related emotions (negative ones)
  • accept growth and new beginnings

So the heart chakra is pretty fundamental to energy flow throughout our bodies. Hopefully reading this blog will help you to recognise any imbalances you may have and of course, becoming aware of blockages in your energy flow is half the battle to releasing any underlying issues.

So how do we unblock our chakras? Most techniques use meditation and visualisation. Below is a great audio guidance meditation for you to try. 😊

Guided Chakra Balancing Meditation
A very effective guided meditation available for purchase from iTunes.

Most chakra cleansing is a 2 step process:

  • Clearing – release negative thoughts and etheric chords from our chakras.
  • Balancing – enlarging or reducing your chakras so they are all of a similar size.

UnknownIn harmony all of the seven main chakras should be of a similar size, as no one area would be given more or less energy, quite simply because when we function in harmony with our minds, bodies and spirit every aspect should receive equal but varied attention. Take for instance the sacral chakra, if this is enlarged/shrunk or unbalanced there may be too much emphasis on gratification; gluttony, sexual appetites etc. When we are in harmony we can enjoy all aspects of humanity, sexuality, feeding our bodies, feeding our mind,  listening to your inner voice and spending time focussed on spirit.

As well as meditation and visualisation, you might use positive affirmations or mantras. A simple one for the heart chakra is to say “I am love.” You are literally affirming that you are the embodiment of love, you hold it in your heart chakra and are open to giving and receiving it. Simple yet effective.

IMG_5113If you are religious you might like to affirm that “Everything is in divine and perfect order.” This may help you to release hurt from previous relationships and to let go and move forward, safe in the knowledge that everything happens for a reason and that there are no coincidences. Every person that enters your life has been drawn to you, your energy and your path. In the end, during all our encounters with fellow sentient beings, we win (emotionally) or we learn.

Another method for clearing your chakras would be to use any or all of the following;

  • Crystals – with the heart chakra green or pink crystals are best; Green Jasper, Emerald, Rose Quartz, Kunzite, Green and Pink Tourmaline, Green Jade or Green Adventurine. Crystals have energy of their own, they can also block, absorb or amplify energy.
  • Essential oilsRose oil, Sandalwood (healing, grounding and sensual), Amyris (from a tropical evergreen tree smells like a blend of sandalwood and vanilla), Cedar wood (calming, eases anger and gives mental clarity), Jasmine (heightens passion & love), or any form of flower essence will work too, (rose water etc).
  • Angelic guidance – mostly through meditation or simply anytime call upon your angels, they will always help you.
  • Shamanic journey – you will need the help of a reputable Sharman (not all are reputable, though most are high energy and enlightened people, please bear that in mind).
  • Healing and cleansing spells (seek the help of a reputable witch – yes I am one 😉, I only practise light magick, but not all witches work in the same way).
  • Spending more time in nature – this is particularly effective if you are often exposed to negative people for long periods of time, such as at work.Earthing
  • Regressive hypnotherapy – to release you from any issues you have carried with you into this lifetime.
  • Forgiveness of past hurts (even those carried from previous lifetimes). This is not to say that what the person did was acceptable or that they were right and you were wrong, it is simply to give yourself release and find peace, to unburden yourself by throwing off the emotional dead weight you carry around.
  • Exercising – any kind of movement that increases your oxygen flow is great. Walking in a ‘power centre’ such as near water, a forest, or especially in an energy nexus like Stonehenge or Sedona (Arizona), will have a strong impact on opening and healing your blocked chakras. Remember a lot of churches were built on energy nexus’ and are often very peaceful places to meditate.
  • Eating the right food – everything we eat or drink contains life force energy (or not). Consuming for instance, the flesh of an animal that was killed inhumanely will adversely affect your chakras, as we absorb the animals pain. Eating foods that contain more life force will heal and create harmony within, resulting in clean glowing chakras. Often those, like myself, who are on a spiritual journey will naturally move away from consuming food that has little or even negative life force, (processed, frozen or dried food contains no life force).
Foods high or low in life force energy
This table is a simple guide to foods high or low in life force. I am not saying only consume one type (as I love rum and tequila), but moderation & increasing the quantity of life force giving food will help a lot. Also cruelty to any life form is unacceptable and we should all try to vote with our feet on this issue!

This is not a definitive list, there are other options you can employ as we are all so varied in lifestyle and culture. Therefore a method that works well for you may not work at all for another.

If you have had a lifetime of unbalance with one or any or the above list of issues pertaining to your heart chakra, such as feeling unworthy, suffering from anxiety and so on, these things can be redressed and eventually harmonised. One thing to bear in mind is that life-long & embedded issues will take time to resolve.

7237896Always remember every journey begins with a single step.  Discovering and developing an awareness of your energy and the way your chakras function is a marvellous journey and one you will never regret embarking on.

I hope this article has been of some use to you, I know it is very heavy on information, but I wanted it to be a useful article that gives real techniques to help balance your chakras and aid you on your journey to a happier, stress free & more fulfilled life.

Thank you for taking the time to read my ramblings.

My next blog covers the Root chakra.

As always in humility I wish you peace and enlightenment upon your path my friends. 🙏🏽ૐ🌟 )0(

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Tantric – Sacred Sexuality – Maithuna

This weeks blog takes on a slightly different theme from my previous ones. Since I created this site I have had the link to Ancient Egyptian Sex Techniques on my page for anyone interested in exploring them. Today I’m throwing the whole thing in your face in an attempt at bringing to life ‘the unstruck chord’ 😘, so read, think and explore – responsibly!

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IMG_5807The focus here, as always, is spirituality, for ultimately we are spirits having a human experience. As many of us awaken to our spirituality – and of course there are numerous paths that can lead to this awakening – we look to connect more with our higher being and hopefully find ourselves becoming more disconnected from the materialistic world we live in whilst learning to let go of stresses and focus on what really matters. Our sexuality when combined with spirit can quite literally be the greatest high of our lives.

First some quick definitions:

  • Tantric is a Sanskrit word which means to loom or weave and is Hindu and Buddhist in origin involving mantra, meditation and ritual.
  • Maithuna is Sanskrit and means the bringing of two things into one in union in a ritual act.
  • Kriya  means a completed action, like a spontaneous body movement that leads to a completed flow, a mature cleansing.

e83c317f2f85f7e2688f8a5466e9185eMaithuna can take place, as a union, purely on a spiritual or metaphysical level (non-penetrative), where you connect using your subtle bodies or spirit, and a transfer of energy occurs. You reach the ‘unstruck chord’  of your lover and your combined spirits dance to the rhythm of the music as your souls create true harmony. Most teachings refer to this experience as the couple incarnated, (with diminished egos), as the Goddess & God, (the female is Shakti and the male Shiva), and such a joining can bring about blissful sensations, waking your whole body in a truly life affirming way. In my personal experience through all my incarnations, there is only one person you can achieve this with in each lifetime and that person is most likely your soulmate. It is possible to achieve a deep spiritual connection with another, but before you experience the bliss there must first be a real and deep connection. Read on and you will understand why…

In order for Maithuna to take place in a physical way there needs to be a joining of spirit and flesh. Joining of the flesh without a connection of spirit is simply carnal. Don’t get me wrong, I do not write this from any seat of judgement. Ordinary sex may be just what you’re looking for, and in most western societies this is in fact the norm, however when the spirit and flesh combine, that is when you can truly explore the deeper tri-level pleasures of Maithuna.

sidebar Before I continue, let me just dispel some of the myths surrounding paganism and sexuality. Consenting adults acting responsibly may do as they will. I just want to be clear that being polyamorous is NOT a Pagan thing, it is a PEOPLE thing, a choice some may make. There are people from all walks of life who choose to have multiple or successive partners and that is their personal choice, however the methods I refer to here require a deeper spiritual connection with one partner where you bond emotionally, mentally and spiritually, reinforcing this link every day through aspects of your life together.

Many pagans are married or in committed relationships and the Handfasting ritual is indeed quite lovely and can last many years or many lifetimes. ‘All acts of love & pleasure are my rituals’ can be true for some pagans, where we invoke and connect spiritually with the Divine. However most sexual rituals (The Great Rite etc), are performed privately between a male and female or symbolically using an Atheme and a chalice. Don’t believe all the hype and misinformation out there about Pagans and orgies etc 🙄. (If you are new to paganism you should never feel obligated or coerced to take part in any ritual that you are not totally comfortable with).

586c33172d479b11a63f56e6a03e1af9I am a heterosexual woman, so I write from my own experience and knowledge. My youngest brother is homosexual and I adore him. The Native Americans refer, rather beautifully, to homosexual/bisexuals as ‘two spirits’. In their wisdom they accepted each human as they are. Those who were born ‘two spirits’ had the spirit of both the male and female within them, often giving rise to creatively gifted or wise humans who could understand both the male and the female perspective. two-spirit-people-meme

As you are probably aware I have a very mixed background, (I’ll leave out past incarnations for now), with influences of catholicism, paganism, witchcraft, voodoo and hinduism all tumbled together in tiny 5ft 1″ me. I view this purely as a gift to have first-hand knowledge and experience of so many paths. It also is the reason I write so passionately about individuality and walking your own path. It was inevitable that I would end up on this spiritual and magical journey, viewing all experiences as a gift or a learning experience. Our sexuality is one aspect of this.

The Ancient Egyptian methods of harnessing the energy of orgasm and channelling this energy back into your body is a great way to re-energise.unknown

The symbol of the Ankh, depicted here, is the key to redirecting this energy. To explain it in the simplest terms, during orgasm the energy that builds is released along the spine and through the top of your head towards the 7th chakra. As the energy builds, but just before it peaks, you need to focus and visualise the Ankh, (essentially the loop at the top), drawing the energy back in through your 4th chakra, the heart. This will slow the orgasm and prolong the whole experience. Initially it might be best to practise this on your own until you master the method of channelling your energy. You will know when you’ve managed the technique successfully as rather than feeling post coital sleepiness, you instead feel energised and raring to go!

With Maithuna, orgasm is only a pause in the whole meditation and not the aim. The focus of Maithuna is to join mind body and spirit until you see only the god or goddess before you wearing the features of your lover.

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Loving couple, Mithuna, Eastern Ganga Dynasty, 13th Century Orissa, India

Maithuna is very much more of a meditative and spiritual experience that transcends time and physical being. Hence the reason why it can never be achieved in a casual sexual encounter. There should be no time limit. To explore this method you will need to set aside most of the day or a weekend entirely devoted to each other – on a regular basis!

It is a sacred act capable of elevating a couple to a higher level of spirituality. Trust is very important, so too is honesty  and equality. By equality I mean most women are slower to become aroused and therefore need to lead the dance or slow the dance where necessary. Missionary or other positions that place the male in the driving seat aren’t as effective, especially if you are new to these methods. main87

The most perfect position for Maithuna resembles the star of David. The male crossed legged and the woman on his legs with her legs wrapped around his waist. This gives equality and openness to connect physically, mentally and most importantly spiritually with each other, without dominance or ego.

flames_of_maithuna_by_child_of_gaeaThe entire ritual is a meditation and initially can take place several times and over several days with no genital penetration, only a spiritual joining that eventually leads quite naturally to joining of the flesh. Remember orgasm is never the primary goal here, just a pleasant interlude, which can be channelled and refocussed.  This method leads to an almost telepathic link between the lovers, through openness and honesty, therefore you need to have these things present in your relationship before you begin this ritual. Obviously, by partaking in the Maithuna ritual, it is unavoidable that you will deepen and strengthen the bond between you on all levels.

10846090_830270297035927_5582308195999724446_nThe meditation begins with a slow build up, bathing and massage is a common way to begin. Use candles, incense, rose petals, essential oils (sandalwood or jasmine are particularly lovely). Create a sacred space for you to be entirely together and focussed only on your lover. Maintain eye contact as much as possible, for they really are the windows to the soul. Touch is natural but unhurried. This is the key to the meditation, it cannot be rushed, let your mind settle, your spirits emerge.

Be together in the vibration (energy) not friction (physical). Bask in the sight, sound, scent and feel of your lover. Talk softly together.  You will naturally flow to the next stage when you are ready, forming the star of David. Even after physically joining, do not rush, just hold each other, knowing you are safe and together, be slow and still. You might part and eat or drink them come together once more. maithunaFocus on breathing and flow, like the waves as you peak and subside, seeing only the divine in each other. It becomes a meditation in reading each other and controlling yourself to please the other but in giving even more is received. Eventually giving and receiving becomes second nature, you lose awareness of whether the touch is being given or received as two truly become one in mind, body and spirit. The whole universe is contained within two that have become one.

This is how Maithuna is reached.

Thank you for reading my ramblings.

May you have many hours, days and weeks of pleasure throughout all your lifetimes together with your lover.

Peace & light to you 🙏🏽🌟ૐ )0(